Why I geek out about the end of the year and you should too!
The end of the year is near and while most people are out chasing down the Black Friday deals, decorating the house in all the holiday spirit, and perfecting their egg-nog concoction, you'll always find me spending the next 30 days lost in day dreams.
You see, I'm a total nerd when it comes to journals! I buy journals like most women buy shoes and purses. The fancier the better. Journaling is my opportunity to see the life that I want to live. It also gives me the opportunity to look back at the year that's ending so that I can see all of the amazing things I've been able to be apart of and accomplish.
I started journaling early on in my life because I found myself moving through days, weeks, months and years, where everything felt exactly the same as the day before. And even though I had done some kick ass stuff, I couldn't remember it. I couldn't tell you how many times I would sit down and say "this sucks," or "I never do anything." It's not that I was ungrateful, it's human nature that we only tend to remember things within the last thirty days. Sixty if you're lucky.
Think of the last review you may have had at your job. If you have the absolute joyous opportunity to experience those still (NOT)! Most supervisors have conversations with their employees discussing, rating, and determining, potential raises solely based on whatever they can remember at the end of the review period. That sucks! You could've had a kick as year and a downturn in the last 30 and vice versa. Yet the only thing you're reviewing are the last few months.
The same goes for your personal life. Being able to look back on things that you have accomplished and done throughout the year allows you to see just how much you've grown as a person. It allows you to look back and say WOW!! I'm a total badass! Then, when you finish your victory dance, you get to say "How can I top that!?" Let the dreaming begin.
I credit this one thing, above all others, as the reason why I have accomplished so much. It has been my ability to not only plan my future but also that I can envision it with absolute clarity. Don't get me wrong, this hasn't always been easy. In fact when I first started this routine, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. But that's not uncommon.
Most of the people I work with find this hard to do because their mindset is that they can’t have exactly what they want. They’ve condition themselves for so long that they are not worthy of amazing things. I only know this, recognize this, and can help them out of this because as I mentioned before, I learned how to grow past this. It's difficult because as women, we feel ashamed of our emotions, we take care of others before ourselves, and when things didn’t go our way, we would rationalize that as something that either 1) we did wrong or 2) it was never meant to be ours in the first place.
Girl!!! That is just not true! Even as I write this I am imploring to you to understand that the catalog of life is literally sitting in your lap. Just as my sister and I would run out to the mailbox and get all the sales ads at Christmas time as kids, so that we could circle exactly what we wanted, (it was always a competition too because you know we could not be circling the same stuff), however, you get to do the same thing. You get to see yourself, your family, your legacy exactly as you want it to be. You get to see yourself on your dream vacation. You get to see yourself in your dream home. You get to see yourself in that relationship that you desire so badly. You get to see yourself having that conversation with your boss giving you the promotion or the big raise. You get to see all of that.
So, just how do you make that happen? I'm so glad you asked me that momma! Here are my three easy peasy tips on making your wildest dreams a reality.
ONE - Pick a time of day that you works best for you, where you can sit each day to envision or day dream about the life you want. Choosing to do the same time each day helps to make this a habit. One that you look forward to everyday.
TWO - Write it down! I can not express this enough. The journal doesn't need to be fancy. It can be a notebook, a notepad, or a post it but you MUST write it down. Writing down what you are envisioning changes the bio-chemistry in our brain and moves us towards actions that align with your dream.
THREE - Look at it e-v-e-r-y-d-a-y! Don't let what you want get lost in all of the other things that you have going on. Keep your dreams on the forefront. What we choose to focus on, we bring into our reality.
Remember that practice makes perfect. Repetition is the mother of skill. If you skip a day, don't beat yourself up. It doesn't mean you failed. It means that you are human, things happen, and remind yourself WHY it's important to you. Before you know it, you will be a journaling pro living a life you once only dreamed about!
Jennifer Star :)